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Part 1: Look at the following worker communications and identify what is wrong with the way each one is expressed

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Part 1: Look at the following worker communications and identify what is wrong with the way each one is expressed.

Part 2: Now go back a to each vignette and constructive a tentative I-message that invites collaboration.

1. To a person who is drinking and taking tranquilizers: "That's a risky thing to do!"
2. To a person who is driving without a driver's license: "You're just doing this to tempt fate."
3. To a person who is always forgetting to take his insulin: "I'm sick of these so-called lapses of memory. You must want to feel sick most of the time!"
4. To a person who bounced three checks in 3 months because she cannot seem to balance her checkbook: "Go take an accounting course, for heaven's sake!"
5. To the person who has lamented not spending enough time with his son: “Children are important. They grow up fast. You only have so long to spend with them when they are kids. You should keep that in mind.”
6. To the person who had trouble completing a high school equivalency exam and is now talking of becoming a doctor: "You need to be more realistic about what you can and can't do. Think of some other career."
7. To the woman who has completed 10 weeks in a rape victim support group and is still unable to work or leave the house much, but who says she is fine and getting over it: "It doesn't seem to me like you're getting over it. If you wanted to get better, you would force yourself to go out more.”
8. To the man who complains about his neighbors but spends time on his porch yelling at the children, which starts neighborhood feuds and tensions: "You're always yelling at them. Of course, they fight with you!"
9. To the woman who has been in a wheelchair for several months following an accident despite her doctor's feelings that she could now be up walking with crutches: "You need to get out of that chair and practice walking. The doctor says you don't need the wheelchair."
10. To a child who says the other kids do not like him, but who is always hitting the other children and calling them provocative names: "You're half the problem, you know. Stop yelling and hitting everyone, and they'll like you better."